It's ok that you're not ok : meeting grief and loss in a culture that doesn't understand / Megan Devine
Book | Sounds True | 2017

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Description
xix, 249 pages ; 21 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references (pages [243]-248).
Contents
Foreword / by Mark Nepo -- Part I. This is all just as crazy as you think it is -- The reality of loss -- The second half of the sentence: why words of comfort feel so bad -- It's not you, it's us: our models of grief are broken -- Emotional illiteracy and the culture of blame -- The new model of grief -- Part II. What to do with your grief -- Living in the reality of loss -- You can't solve grief, but you don't have to suffer -- How (and why) to stay alive -- What happened to my mind? Dealing with grief's physical side effects -- Grief and anxiety: calming your mind when logic doesn't work -- What does art have to do with anything? -- Find your own image of "recovery" -- Part III. When friends and family don't know what to do -- Should you educate or ignore them? -- Rallying your support team: helping them help you -- Part IV. The way forward -- The tribe of after: companionship, true hope, and the way forward -- Love is the only thing that lasts -- Appendix. How to help a grieving friend.
Summary
"In It's OK That You're Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides--as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner--Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, 'happy' life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it. In this compelling and heartful book, you'll learn: Why well-meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief. How challenging the myths of grief--doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold--allows us to accept grief as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve. Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to 'fix' your pain. How to help the people you love--with essays to teach us the best skills, checklists, and suggestions for supporting and comforting others through the grieving process. Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to 'solve' grief. Megan writes, 'Grief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution.' Through stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices, she offers a unique guide through an experience we all must face--in our personal lives, in the lives of those we love, and in the wider world"--Amazon.com.
Having experienced grief from both sides-- as a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner-- Devine writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, 'happy' life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it.
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Online version: Devine, Megan. It's ok that you're not ok. Boulder, CO : Sounds True, [2018] 9781622039081 (DLC) 2017020725 (OCoLC)984899020
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9781622039074 (pbk.)
1622039076 (pbk.)
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